Thursday, 11 March 2010

Chinese New Year

I have never quite enjoyed Chinese New Year and I believe it is due to the fact that I hate to make small talks. When I was younger the topic will always revolve around schools and studies and when I started working it will be about the job of course. Thankfully I don't think I have very much experience on the "So when are you getting married" bit but I believe it was because I got married at a rather young age. Then of course we won't be spared on the "So when are you having babies" question.

My dad's side of the family is small so each year we only need to go to one place and spend about 2 hours there. If we meet all the relatives then fine if not better luck next year. This arrangement suits me just nice for I will always be free from the afternoon of the 1st day onwards and it will usually be movies and mahjong from then on! Woohoo!

Then along came the Mrs. Her family and extended families are huge and they will all gather at her mum's place on the 2nd day. Being the boyfriend I will of course go over and hang around but I will be "let off" after a couple of hours to meet my mahjong kakis. This arrangement lasted until we got married of course. Once I am family the duration of my stay was automatically lengthened (I believe it was amongst the fine prints on the wedding certificate along with the "I cannot sleep before her" clause). Although there were some years when my dad needed me to fill in for their mahjong session hence I was able to make an early departure.

Now that I am a parent the Chinese New Year (CNY) has brought a different set of joy but I still feel the same set of pain. No, actually come to think of it, it is worse!

Let us begin with the pre CNY days! One has to admire the Mrs's genuine joy and excitement for the CNY. She will always bug me to go with her to Chinatown to shop for the New Year decorations and goodies. I must add that being pregnant, be it with Isaac or the twins never dampen her spirit. She will still want to go. This year was even better for she decided that the 3 kids should not miss out on such nice festive mood so Ani and I were ordered to gear up and bring all the kids along. Needless to say it wasn't easy but honestly it wasn't that bad either. However I dare not imagine how are we going to cope with all 3 of them next year for the twins will definitely be able to run around and I am positive the Mrs will still want to continue her little tradition of going to enjoy the festive mood.

Seeing the kids dressed up in their chi-na clothing is probably the highlight for me. For this I have to thank the Mrs for her last minute scrambling through the online as well as actual retail shops for the cutest little clothing for all 3 of them. Searching for one is already hard as some you will no doubt testify to but to scrounge around for three is something else altogether. We should probably start earlier next year.

One of the differences is unlike previous years we have to wait for the relatives to come so they can take a look at the kids. For those who could not make it we will have to go to their place to visit. I guess I should be happy that these people are taking such an interest in my kids and maybe I will in years to come but by then I’m rather sure their interest would have diminished.

The most tiring and hardest part was the running around after my kids at the relatives' place to make sure they don't damage anything or injure themselves. Isaac was climbing up and down the sofas, opening cupboard doors and even rearranging some of the furniture to his own liking. Luke for now at least was restricted to crawling around but that did not stop him from getting up and reaching for the drinks and goodies that were laid out on the coffee table.

Then there was Hayley who didn't fancy strangers holding her especially in our presence. Unfortunately for her being the only girl in the family and also the only grand daughter available all the other relatives wanted to hold her for a while. Besides watching over the boys I had to constantly look out for her to make sure she was not too traumatised by all the passing around. I'm certain it wasn't very pleasant at all for her and thank goodness the boys are generally alright with strangers carrying them.

From the many status updates and comments I saw on Facebook during that period I am sure I was not the only one who found it tough. In fact there were a number of people who were pleased that the CNY was over and stressing on how tired they were. I cannot imagine how an ex-neighbour of mine managed to bring her kids for visitings during the entire 15 days.

Having 3 kids also has this funny little effect on us. We will try and avoid giving red packets to strangers with children in the same room for we actually felt bad that should we give them one they will have to return us with three. As a result we will just shake on it and wished each other well. I could have sworn I saw a certain sense of relief on their face (kidding). I'm sorry friends, there is no running away for you guys so if you want to breakeven then you know there is really only one thing to do.

Here are some of the pictures that I have selected for this post. I will upload the rest of the pictures on my Facebook at a later date when I can find the time.
Isaac still with a little of blue black just under his eye.
For once Luke was not paying attention to the camera. Otherwise he will not have expression again.
Hayley with her usual big and round eyes.
Our pride and joy!
The traditional potrait taken during CNY at Godma's place!


Joyce said...

Great pics of kiddos and family ^_^. Talking abt THREE - 3kids; let's see how I'd cope during the next CNY. You're like helping me to prep mentally :p! This CNY is the all so 'terrible' confinement for me. And 'Thanks' to this very confinement; hubby and kiddos cannot go visiting as it's considered taboo to do so; not for us, but for the people whom we'd visit. But the thing is, hubby and I miss all these CNY hurry and furry; soaking in the atmosphere. With 3 kids next yr thou, let's see :p!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Joyce,

I think you will cope better than us since you already have experience running after 2 kids.

I had no idea some people do not like mummies in confinement to go visit them.

I'm sure next year will be more fun for you!

no man's land said...

I am biased lah. But I think Hayley is such a pretty baby - err, the prettiest of the 3. *haha*

Happyhour said...

Yo Dylan... i tot i was late in updating my share of cny stuff... i think we are on par!! haha so busy with work n all that i am finding it difficult to catch up... i think i read your blog more than i want to update mine!

eh and i agree with "no man's land" Hayley is REALLY very pretty... such a sweet little girl... no wonder all your relatives want to have a share of her :)

Happy CNY! (belated)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

Hahahaha! You can afford to be biased and have your favourite.

Another couple of weeks to go only. Here's wishing you a smooth, easy and quick labour.

Happy birthing!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Cecilia,

Hahahaha I am glad there’s someone out there who is as behind time as I am! You said it! Work and family is really keeping me very busy so I will be behind most of the time.

Since you are reading my blog more than updating your own does this mean I need to update more often?

I noticed another similarity you share with “No Man’s Land” and that is you both have 2 girls, well actually she WILL BE having 2 girls soon, so maybe that’s why you two prefer Hayley?

Happy CNY (very belated one) too!

no man's land said...

dylan, how about wishing me a painless labour? and very, very fast recovery? *haha* we can always hope right?

The Bimbo said...

Isaac is SOosoooooooooo adorable in his Cheena clothing! the other two are just "blur" hahahah so cuteeee!!

And yes I do pity your friends on that angbao part.. erhm...

Aside from that.. I do agreee.. I hate small talk. Why are some people just so good at all this visiting thingy?? just leave us to the gambling!

olivia said...

WOw, I can't imagine your twins are now 1! Happy birthday.
Your kids all look so cute in the CNY clothes. Isaac seems to be less chubby but alot more grown up now.
Yes, Hayley is really pretty. But the boys are so cute. :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

I assume you will be taking the happidural so the pain part should be taken care of. This is your second time so you should be much better at it. Don’t worry you will do better then fine!

Good Luck!

A Husband's Voice said...

Thanks Bobo,

For some reason the twins have not quite taken to the camera yet. Especially for Luke who has one of the sweetest smile but it is just impossible to capture it with the camera for now.

I do feel a little apologetic towards them too but hey isn’t it supposed to be good for them to be giving ang baos away? So my kids are actually helping them prosper for the rest of the year.

You know I never quite imagined you to be the gambling sort. Maybe I’ll bump into you at one of our local casinos and then we can have the awkward moment of silence since we both hate small talk. Hahahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Olivia,

Thanks for your belated birthday well wishes! Time flies doesn’t it? Before we know it I will be blogging about the first day of school for the twins.

Isaac is indeed rather skinny now. We all wish he will eat more and pound on the fats but don’t think it will happen anytime soon. He has certainly gotten bigger but still the baby in my eyes. I still call him Baby most of the time.

I will be uploading more pictures of the kids on my Facebook soon so you know where to look ya?

Nicole said...

Oh haha, so roanne is just like me, biased and prefer Hayley! Since I have 2 girls myself, I guess that natural.

But I still heart Isaac ok, he will always remind me of my own cleo. And Cleo, like Luke also not very good when facing the camera. All funny funny expressions starts to show!

You are already quite ' up to date' on your posts. I have yet to even update mine.

I can easily imagine the thrill of having Hayley ya. Getting to dress her up, and she's pretty to start off with. So is she the famous ' daddy's girl'??

Happyhour said...

reading your blog will motivate me to update mine... so you better update more! :)

eh ya i think having girls of my own tend to LIKE Hayley MORE lor.. girl girl mah... but of course your boys are equally handsome... :)

no man's land said...

dylan, here's a topic suggestion when you have time to blog: favouritism - do you and the mrs encounter this problem, and how do you come to terms with it. it's one thing for us blog readers to be biased and have our 'favourite', but it's a different thing for you guys as the parents.

i get asked about how i think i will deal with the issue, and frankly speaking, i have no idea at all. i worry sometimes that i will eventually come to prefer one child over the other.

p.s. nicole, i wait for your blog updates wait until my neck is very, very, very long already. *haha*

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nicole,

Ya I’m beginning to think that mummies with girls still prefer girls.

Actually Luke is unlike Cleo for when the camera is put in front of him he will have no expression. That’s why people call him Blur. Actually he smiles a lot behind the camera.

Compared to you of course I am up to date with my blogging. You really need to start working on it again for people like Roanne and I are still popping by regularly to check.

The Mrs is going crazy with her purchases and dolling her up. Being the only girl in the family she is definitely this daddy’s girl!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Cecilia,

Yes I can see that you did indeed update your blog after I did mine. So now I really have to continue to motivate you huh? I always try to blog once a week but these days it is getting harder but I’ll still trying.

I thought by having girls of your own you will like boys more but guess I was wrong.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

I was asked questions on who do I prefer and do I have a favourite many times. In fact I wanted to blog about this topic a while back but never got down to it. Now thanks to your bringing it up I believe I will touch on that next.

I don’t think it is fair to ask you how you will deal with it since your number 2 is not actually out yet but keep this in mind for I would like to read about your thoughts on this about a year later.

Actually maybe this is something that Nichole can touch on for her next post as well since she has been absent for so long. By giving her a topic we might just be able to kick start her engine.

alhnom said...

Hi! I chanced upon your blog and am now a fan! You have a beautiful family and a perfect set of twins! Here's to you and your fatherhood and best wishes for your family!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Alhnom,

Thanks for being a reader of my blog and following it. I’m glad you have posted your first comment and I hope to receive many more in the future.

I’m just curious how you chance upon it if you care to share.

Thank you very much for your well wishes and all the best to you and your family as well.

See you around!