Monday, 18 August 2008


The Mrs is really having it rough this time round with the pregnancy! She had vomited so much that she lost 3KG in 2 weeks which according to our Gynae is not healthy anymore and it did raise some alarms.

In fact the nurses at the clinic suggested for the Mrs to be admitted into the hospital in order to go on the drip. The whole problem was she kept on vomiting and she could not stomach any food or water. So when all these factors were put together she lost weight at an alarming rate. Now she is literally skin and bone only. The sight of it really pains me.

The Mrs was really all ready to admit herself into the hospital on Friday morning so that she will feel better but one last check with the Gynae and he suggested administering her with the drug, Primperan and observing for another day first. If she was to continue to vomit then we have to go back to the hospital on Saturday.

Thank goodness this drug worked and the Mrs stopped feeling nauseous for the rest of the weekend. She had to administer this drug on a daily basis though and it had to be through the rectum.

Although the vomiting stopped she is still very weak from the dehydration and lack of food intake as a result she slept almost the entire Sunday. I was amazed with the number of hours she was asleep for. I am glad that we solved this problem and am currently working on encouraging her to take more food; a little more with each meal. The way I feel is she needs to start eating again in order to regain her strength and not feel so lethargic.

Sad to say the above is only half the story. The title of this post is Rough remember?

Sometime around Thursday the Mrs complained that her back and limbs were itchy so thinking that it was probably nothing she went to take a hot shower and it helped a little. However by Friday night the itch got worse and we decided to go to the GP first thing Sat morning. Then Saturday morning came the itch was not so bad anymore so we decided to let it be but who knows by about 11pm the Mrs was scratching all over again. Seeing the rashes and lumps on her body (not unlike mosquitoes bite except maybe about 5 - 6 times larger) it suddenly dawned on her that she had full blown hives. She wanted to sleep it off and go to the GP on Sunday morning but gave up around 3.30 Sunday morning.

We drove down to NUH A & E department and after getting a jab and resting there under observation for about an hour the hives seemed to be under control and we went on home to continue sleeping. I was unable to accompany her during the 2 hours at the hospital as they do not allow visitors in the Fever department. So I attempted to sleep in the car while waiting.

The Mrs must really be feeling very unwell and bad because in all our years of being together she has never suggested taking leave from work to stay at home and rest. This morning she was thinking of applying half day afternoon leave for these 2 weeks so she can rest and regain her strength. Honestly I do not think she will carry it out but to even consider this option speaks volume about how she is feeling right now.

At home Ani is mainly taking care of Isaac and some simple housework while I take care of the Mrs. I really dare not think about how am I to cope if we did not get a maid in the first place. Isaac will most probably have to be at my parents place even at night.

Throughout this entire episode the Mrs is always apologizing for her conditions as she feels bad that I have to double up in terms of caring for Isaac and her.

We are nearing the 2nd trimester and for her sake I really hope that all these symptoms as well as being unwell; weak and lethargic will all go away. Only time will tell……


F A I T H said...

Hi Dylan
You're doing a great job! I had a rough 1st trimester with frequent "blackouts" due to raging hormones and suffered sever weight loss too due to vomiting, but still, I guess its not as bad as your Mrs'. Hence, I can imagine how teriible she must be feeling right now. Yes, we sometimes feel apologetic for lower productivity at work as well as at home. But at the end of the day, family support as well as understanding co-workers make the journey a whole lot easier. Am sure your Mrs will feel a much better by the first 2 weeks of the 2nd trimester. Hang in there!

Anonymous said...

Hi Dylan,

So sorry to hear abt the sufferings that ur Mrs is going thru. Juz by reading ur post, i already feel so heartache. To think that i still complained abt my weight gain, now i feel guilty for not realising it's actually a blessing.

I do hope the 2nd trimester will be easier for her. Meanwhile, keep taking the supplements... I've heard that babies take the nourishment fm mums, & mums hv to replenish via supplements. Take Care!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Faith,

Thanks for your compliment and concerns.

"Blackouts"!!!! Wow! That sounds dangerous! You had sever weight loss due to vomiting too so you had it as bad as the Mrs.

The Mrs is blessed in the sense that her colleagues are supportive and caring during this tough period.

As for 2nd trimester, we are so counting down the days!!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nana,

Thanks for your concerns.

Ya, some ladies are lucky with their pregnancy where they do not "suffer" as much. My sister being one of them.

Our fingers are crossed for the 2nd trimester. As for the supplements, I will show her your advice and suggestion because just last night she protested that she will only take folic acid from now on. Guess she is tired of all the medicine that she has been taking these days. Or maybe she is just cranky from feeling unwell.

missmoon said...

hey dylan
i'm really sorry to see that the Mrs is suffering. u too, must be pained at what's she is enduring.

i can only offer some words of comfort and hope that with 2nd tri just round the corner, these will disappear!

hang in there!

Nicole said...

OUCH! Just reading it pains me. Your mrs must be feeling terrible. I have a rough idea how that must have feel... So my 'vomitting' sessions was really just a tip of the iceberg as compared to your mrs. Poor her! :(

Again, it still amazes me sometimes, how women gotta endure and give to really be pregnant and give birth.

Like what many have advised, hopefully your mrs will feel alot better during her 2nd trimster.

Take care of yourself and your family.

Mother to Aidan Monster said...

Hang in strong, Dylan!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Cynthia,

Thanks for your concern. Whenever I see her limbs reducing to skin and bones then I will feel very heartache. That's why I always encouraging her to eat and drink more to her dismay.

Yup. Fingers and toes are crossed for the 2nd trimester.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nicole,

Thanks. Yeah she has been feeling terrible for the past 2 weeks hence the thought of taking half day leave to rest at home. But as I said in my post, it will only remain as a thought cause she will never act on it.

Women do go through a lot to conceive and give birth. Some will even say that it is risking their own lives which I agree.

It will be interesting to know if she will miss being pregnant again after this time. Hahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Agnes,

Thanks but I still the Mrs has to hang on stronger. I'm doing okay and helping her in whatever way I can. I'm sure she will ride it out very soon.

no man's land said...

oh dear. it looks like the poor mrs is suffering a lot more through this pregnancy. hopefully things will go well, and she'll start feeling good again soon.

A Husband's Voice said...

Thanks Roanne,

Yeah she is indeed "suffering" much more this time round. The only silver lining is we are heading into our 2nd trimester very soon. Fingers crossed!

Unknown said...


jia you!! I'm sure ur Mrs will be better in her 2nd trimester.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Janice,

Thanks! Will ask the Mrs to Jia You too!

Irene said...

oh dear, hope ur MRS will get better in 2nd trimester loh. hopefully. pray pray!

ur a really sweet hubby & daddy, keep it up :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Irene,

Thanks for your concerns and compliments.

The Mrs seems to be getting better so we are hopeful that she will be alright by 2nd trimester.

Will keep you posted.

The Bimbo said...

Hi Dylan!

Oh not that sounds like it's a really bad one. She has hives and stuff! She's lucky she has you by her side. JIA YOU!!


A Husband's Voice said...

Thanks Bobo,

I believe we are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel already.

Fingers crossed.