Rushed??

As you all probably know by now I try and keep my posting to once a week since I am so busy with so many other things but I can sense all your genuine excitement and the many questions that you might have so I decided to do a follow up post within the week.

First of all we would like to give our heartfelt thanks to all of you. We are really surprised and touched that so many of you genuinely share our joy and are looking forward to embarking on this journey with us again.

I guess the number one question on everyone’s mind is if this pregnancy is planned. So for the record, YES this is a planned pregnancy. We do not preach or advocate accidents of any kind in the Tan residence.

Next question is “why so soon?” and the answer to this is I have ran out of interesting material for this blog so I discussed with the Mrs to have a second child in order to boost the readership so maybe I can be a full time blogger and as a result will be able to stay at home and spend more time with the kids. Er…….. just realised this is not going to happen because I do not even have a single money making advertisement on my blog?!?!

Seriously, like I explained to some of you on my earlier post, we knew all along that we will not have just one child plus the fact that we are nearing our mid thirties we felt there is really no point in waiting. Furthermore it took us more than 3 years to finally conceive Isaac so we are not prepared to wait another 3 years for number 2 to come along.

Another reason is we are getting good domestic support both from my parents and Ani. Since both my parents are still mobile and able to help plus Ani has proven to be reliable and good with Isaac, the decision was made easier.

Allow me to digress a little. An example on how sweet Ani was. The Mrs was having whole day sickness even till now and has lost her appetite for food. As a result she lost about 3 KG already. Knowing that the Mrs really liked the Hong Kong Curry Fish Ball, Ani asked my mum to buy the ingredients while they were shopping at NTUC a few days back so that she can make them (the HK style) for the Mrs one evening. She was hoping to spice up the Mrs’s appetite. Although it did not really work but we were touched that she has this heart to go out of her way and do something like that.

Honestly we were a little uncertain in the beginning if we should start again so soon but after some discussion we decided to go ahead with it. After all there is no guarantee that we will be successful the first time round right?

Isaac’s Godma was one of the first to know but her reaction was a little unexpected and we understand where she was coming from. She felt that we were being unfair to Isaac by having a second child so soon. She is worried that Isaac will be neglected or at least less attention and maybe even love will be showered on him. This gives you all a picture on how much Godma loves and protects Isaac.

Well, I am new at this Father business hence I can’t really say for sure what will happen with 1 or 2 more kids in the future but I believe our love for Isaac will not be in anyway affected. He will always be special to us after all he was God’s gift to us after 3 years of trying.

There is no denying that Isaac will have to share our time and love in the future but this will happen no matter what unless we do not plan on having any more kids which is not the case.

Like so many of you mentioned, by having them born so close to each other we are hopeful that they will grow up close and as best friends too. On paper it may look like they are 2 years apart but in reality they are truly only about 15 months apart.

The EDD is 9th March 2009 for those of you who are curious.

The third question is if we intend to know the gender. Well, as my friend put it the other night when we announced our pregnancy over dinner, “Ah ya! Dylan always like to be special and do things differently one la!” So if you guess I intend not to know then you are beginning to know me better. On the statement that my friend made, I prefer to think of it as: It is NOT that Dylan is trying to be special and likes to do things differently. It is more like Dylan IS special hence he does things differently. What do you think?

Anyway this is my plan and I know I will stick by it but if you recalled during our time with Isaac, the Mrs and to a certain degree even I was very tempted to give up and find out the gender towards the end of the journey when we did our 4D scans. I am glad we stuck by it and I got to tell the Mrs “It’s a Boy” on Boxing Day when we got to unwrap our present.