Monday, 15 September 2008


So my friends Mike and his wife, Kat gave birth to a healthy baby girl, Kaitlin last week at Gleneagles Hospital. It was such a happy occasion that the Mrs and I visited them at the hospital twice.

Looking at them brought back many memories for us. For instance how small Isaac was about 9 months ago. How we carry him around using only one hand and it freaked many people including experienced parents out there. Now, we sometimes struggle with even 2 hands when carrying Isaac.

However what hit me the most was the diaper changing and crying. The smell of her poop seemed so familiar and then it dawned on me that diaper duties will be back soon but that I think is still manageable because we have Ani. What got me a little worried there was the crying. See, Kaitlin has a very healthy set of lungs and she was not shy in using them to the full capacity (she cried till she turned red). Unlike Isaac who needed almost no feeding during the first 2 days, Kaithlin was a hungry baby and as most mothers would do, Kat tried to latch her on but had no luck during her short spell in the hospital. Each failed attempt was greeted by loud wailing by little Kaitlin.

My “look” must have been pretty obvious for the Mrs to shoot me a “don’t be rude” kind of look. I like to clarify that she was mistaken. I was not “frowning” at Kaitlin for crying out loudly because that is the most natural thing for babies to do when they need to vent their frustration and communicate with us. The reason I had a look on my face was because I was recalling if Isaac went through the same thing. Funny how being a dad shorten my memories because I drew a blank hence the “look”.

I was standing there trying to recall what went on in our hospital room with Isaac about 9 months ago. I guessed I was just curious how we handled the wailing Isaac because what I had just experienced was really a wake up call for our coming babies. If our babies turn out to be totally unlike Isaac then we may have gotten way over our heads this time.

Isaac for the most part had set a pretty high benchmark for the coming babies. He was a relatively quiet baby during the initial few months. All he did was eat, shit and sleep. There are of course the night feeding duties but that was manageable for us even though we did it without a confinement lady. He drank almost every 3 to 4 hourly day and night. He was able to sleep through the night shortly after the fourth trimester.

He is not a picky eater. I mean he has his likes and dislikes of course but he is alright with most things. He is even happy with just plain water. Sometimes he gets a little restless in the car, we feed him plain water and he will drink it and be quiet for a while.

Isaac sets and follows his own routine rather religiously. He will eat when he is supposed to and for the most part sleep when he is supposed to also. Actually come to think of it, Isaac will almost never say no to eating, be it milk, porridge or puree. He has even upgraded to eating just plain rice nowadays. He will make noise whenever we have our dinner so we give him few grains of white rice at intervals and that will keep him happy for a while.

Isaac is also not sticky and at the same time not afraid of strangers. This goes a long way in sharing the burden (read his weight) with friends and family. There are of course days that he feels a little cranky and he will be a little more selective who gets to carry him but these occasions are few and far between.

He also gave us no headaches when we brought him for his injections. Besides crying really loudly for his very first jab at the PD he never shed any tears for the subsequent two and he also did not develop fever after each of those jabs.

Looking back it could be because we had a relative easy time with Isaac that gave us the courage and final push to try for a second one so soon.

Our fingers are crossed for the coming babies to be as good if not better than Isaac. We really need them to be in their best behaviour otherwise we will really have a hard time handling them together. Managing one crying baby may not be too much of a challenge but if both of them cry at the same time then it is a different ball game altogether and I seriously hope and pray that they will not affect Isaac when they cry.

I have a feeling our lives is really starting to get interesting.

Meanwhile it is official that Isaac is a plus size baby. I was never too convinced that Isaac is a plus size (cannot use the word Fat) baby because the way I see him, he is really not much difference from other babies. I mean they come in different shapes and sizes right but in my defence I did not really have a baby of about his age to compare in person.

So what convinced me was the birthday lunch that we attended yesterday. It was my friend’s son who turned one. During lunch a stranger (seated at our table) whose wife is also expecting twins approached us for our “secret” in getting Isaac to the size that he is today. My honest answer, it is all his own credit because he was the one who ate the quantity that he has been eating and also set his own routine. Guess I was not of not much help huh?!

By the way, the birthday boy is only about 9.2kg and 1 year old and Isaac weighed in at 8.8kg that morning, nuff said!

Never get tired of seeing this "ugly" face!

Just as happy when carried by mummy!

Isaac at 8.5 mths old is only 400g lighter than birthday boy, Aloysius!

What's the secret for keeping such round and smooth face?

There is always time for a little father and son fun!


Aces Family said...

Hi Dylan,

A friend of mine commented that when your 1st baby is easy to handle, usually the 2nd one will be a challenge. God is fair.. : )
I agreed with her.

Different kid will different set of behaviour. I don't believe in benchmark, espcially on this school of teaching..haha.


Nicole said...

Yes, I agreed with astee.

Claire was such a E-A-S-Y baby to handle and look at Cleo now*faint*

And Isaac and Cleo weigh the same. Heavy duty babies. Haha

And they both look around the same, very chubby, very round, fair and so very the cute man! Yes, I'm self-praising my girl. :)

LittleLamb said...

hey Issac is adorable. can i pinch his "char siew bau"????

btw, is he 1 yet?

i like his bandana. add a sunglass...that would make him groovy...ahahhaha

Trina said...

did i read correctly? Is ur wife expecting twins??

My boy was also quite the "perfect" baby in not giving major problems during his infancy stage. Keeping fingers crossed that subsequent kids will be as easy!

Anonymous said...

Issac is really so so cute.. Love his cheeky grin, it's like his whole face lits up.

Mrs Chew

Anonymous said...

Hi Dylan,
Oh my goodness!! CONGRATS on twins!! I just read yr replies on the last posting and I am almost sure you guys are expecting twins!!! WOW :)
It is still a waiting game for me... yup yup i will be starting a blog once i start my painful jabs!! ouch!! CONGRATS!!

Unknown said...

oh my. Isaac is just as heavy as the birthday boy!! :P I love his smile when he was carried by his mummy especially. :D

mummy yio said...

Hi Dlyan.

OH MY!!! You guys r expecting twins aren't you??? Thats double congrats ya!

BTW, this is quek here :) Have started a blog for my baby :) Do drop by :)

Anonymous said...

oh my goodness... twins!!! Congrats...
eh for me i had the "difficult" baby first and now bless with an "easier" one.. my first one would merlion at the slightest thing and i feel damn heartache (cos its my hard squeezed BM lor). we even devised a "vomit box" using tissue box on standby and at the slightest weird sound tat my bb made we will rush for the box n put under her chin. I cannot remember how many bedsheets we changed in the nights and how many times we wipe the floor... thank goodness my 2nd one *keeping fingers crossed* isnt quite a merlion like her sister... phew

btw, my name is Cecilia ;)
love Issac's cheeks... smuack

Anonymous said...


Lionel n Rachel said...

hey dylan,
pardon me for the blunder but the mrs is EXPECTING TWINS?!?! i
m nt sure if i am correct but the way u quote in the paragraph dat a stranger whose wife is ALSO expecting twins makes me wonder....

Double the fun, double the work! And double congratulations!


Michelle Ng said...

Oh how i envy u guys. Been a very loyal reader for ur blog cos my son and Isaac was only a few days apart. Mine's 22nd dec last year and am currently pregnant with the 2nd one too 12 weeks now. Was hoping this 2nd one was a twins but the scan only shows one embryo. Anyhow, Congrats on your twins ya. :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Astee,

Guess I was only being greedy. I was hoping that our number twos will be easier to handle than Isaac.

I think it will always be hard not to draw comparisons. This happens everywhere. Although we will be looking at the positives of each child instead of dwelling on the negatives.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nicole,

Well I certainly hope that Isaac will be considered the harder one to manage after the babies are out. Hahaha

I know usually one child will be harder to handle when compared to the other. Maybe just maybe we got the harder one already?!?!

Fat hope right?!?! Hahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Philip's mum (name please?)

Er.... normally we do not allow people to pinch his cheeks but readers do have its privileges so you can. Hahaha

Isaac is only turning 9mths on 26th of this month.

Speaking of bandanas and sunglasses, he actually has 3 bandanas and 2 pairs of sunglasses. He doesn't like the sunglasses. In the past he will turn cranky when we put it on but recently he has learned how to remove it.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Trina,

Congratulations for correctly picking up my subtle clues on us having twins!!

You won for yourself.........the bragging rights!! Hahaha

You and I are hoping for the same thing, read just as greedy! Hahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Jolin,

So I guess you like his "ugly face" like me too.

Imagine how lucky we feel when we wake up to seeing that each morning.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Jas,

Thanks!! I can really sense you excitement.

So you guessed it after reading my reply to Ivy huh.

So when are you starting on your daily injections? It must be hard so hopefully seeing Isaac's smiley face will keep you going and motivated.

Do invite me to you blog once it is up. The Mrs and I would love to join you on your journey.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Janice,

Ya, I have finally conceited that Isaac is truly a plus size baby. He is just slightly lighter that the birthday boy who is 3.5 months older than him. Most guessed he is older than his actual age.

We're going through photos of him now to select one to be sent for this contest (a small one). Hopefully can win some vouchers to help save cost. We definitely need it now. Heh!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Quek,

Thanks for your double congrats!!

I actually know of your blog already. I can see who comes or refer people to read my blog.

Have already added it to the whole long list of readers' blogs. Will definitely drop by and leave comments although the list is getting quite long now.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Cecilia,


I am hoping that maybe by some miracle Isaac is the "harder" one it’s just that we do not know yet! Hahaha

Honestly I had no idea what BM meant until the Mrs told me! Guess this is still a man's blog after all huh?!

As a reader you get to kiss and pinch Isaac's cheeks. So identify yourself to enjoy your privileges should you see us while shopping one day. Hahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nora,

Yup! TWINS!!!!!!!

More about them in my next post so stay tune ya?

A Husband's Voice said...

Hey Yvonne,

No worries, no blunder there. You interpreted my clue correctly. I intentionally included "also" in that statement. Well done!!

Thanks for "double the congrats; double the fun and double the work". All I'm thinking now is "double the trouble?!?!" Hahaha

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi there Michievious (name please?)

First of all congrats to your number 2 as well!!

Thanks for following my humble blog and also for finally leaving a comment.

I know of your "existence" a while back but because your blog is by invitation only I was not able to read or get in touch with you.

Maybe you will invite the Mrs and I to your blog since we have so many things in common. Isaac and your son are only days apart and you are also pregnant like us again. Maybe they will also be days apart.

It will be very interesting to compare notes.

Take care ya?!

Anonymous said...

yup definately ,
i will keep you updated once i get my blog started... :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Jas,

In the meantime you take great care and good luck ya?!

Nicole said...

It's good to know that your mrs doesn't have to go through 3rd round to have another one!

She only have to go through this more time and she can 'close factory' and produce two babies, no less!!!!

I'm happy for you guys:) You have your wish fulfilled and at one shot!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nicole,

Actually I don't know about that because if both of them are boys also, the Mrs seems pretty determined to try one last time for a girl.

As much as I like to have a girl and be a parent to both genders, I am not very comfortable with a fourth child.

But that is for another day. Until we know the genders of the twins at least.

no man's land said...

congratulations dylan and mrs! you both must have been so excited when told of the existence of the twins. do blog more & post more pictures! =)

Anonymous said...

oh my goodness... double congrats man.. i was thinking MAYB you typed wrongly... faint... so excited for you... wow... i dont know what to say man....looking forward to more exciting entries from you :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Thanks Roanne,

Honestly the feelings we experienced when told it was twins were a little mixed. I will touch on it in my next post.

Will try and blog more with pictures before the twins' arrival where I will have even less time.

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Cecilia,

So when you posted your comment last night you still weren't sure if we are having twins?

You seemed so excited still after last night's comment. It's almost like its two different people. Thanks again nonetheless.

Will definitely have more entries but not so sure if they will be exciting.

Anonymous said...

TWINS?!?!??!?! Now I am super jealous!!!

Mrs Chew

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Jolin,

There is no need to be jealous. Wait till they're born and I blog about the trouble and problems we face. Then maybe you will change your mind about twins. Hahaha

JChin said...

Wow Dylan,

Can close shop after this if your target remains at 3!! Big huge congras! Me think u'll need 2 domestic help?!?! =) haha..
oh and when do you know if they are identical twins?

no man's land said...

i must say, i am a bit jealous too. *haha* but i'm very happy for you guys! for the mrs' sake, i hope there's a girl, if not two, in there. we all know how little girls are 'the' perfect little kids - all sugar and spice and everything nice! *hahahaha*

and hey, you guys have a challenge ahead of you thinking up names, and buying stuff for the babies' arrival. =)

and now that i think about it, you really do need a twin stroller now! =P

Michelle Ng said...

Hi Dylan,

Sure. May i have u and the Mrs's email addy? Btw, hope u won't be frighten away by my hokkienish 38 private blog. Oh and Michelle here. :)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Josephine,

Thanks for your big huge congrats!!

I do hope we can close shop after this but that is unless at least one of them is a girl.

The Mrs seemed to think that we may require another maid also but I'll put it off and see how we cope initially first. Since we're both rather hands on I do think it may just work out with only Ani.

As for whether they are identical or not, we already know and all will be revealed in my next post so stay tuned okay?

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

We all hope there is at least a girl in there. As most fathers, I would really like to have a girl.

Yeah there are indeed some challenges coming up and name is definitely one of them. I will post about it soon and get you all to help suggest. So start thinking!

Not sure if we want the twin stroller as it is rather bulky. Prams in UK are much cheaper so when are you coming back? ;P

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Michelle,

Send one invitation will do. The Mrs and I can share. My email is Yup! You read it right.

Don't worry about your English / Hokkien and content. This is your blog and your style so you do whatever you like. I do hope that we can compare notes since there are so many similarities.

You take care ya?!

Nicole said...

Twins stroller is NOT a good idea. My brother bought one, and he didn't use it at all. Escalators, slopes, some of it is too narrow for you to even try to 'stuff' your twin stroller into it. Also, it's taking up alot of space! Two individual prams/strollers will be more advisable.

My two cents worth:)

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nicole,

Thanks for reminding me about the escalator. I agree with you, most of them are too narrow for a twin stroller.

Actually we wanted to buy only 1 more stroller. The intention is to let the 3 kids share the 2 strollers. It should work right?

We even placed an order in SMH for the Bugaboo Bee stroller but the bulk order fell through.

Anyway we have a few more months so we will take our time to decide.

no man's land said...

hi dylan, you are in luck. i am heading back to singapore sometime in early feb for chinese new year. and i agree with nicole that twin strollers can be bulky, especially the side-by-side ones. that's why if you really want to get a twin stroller, i suggest you get the tandem ones. one in front, and one at the back. they're about as 'slim' and 'narrow' (in width) as most single-seaters. then isaac can sit in front, while one of the babies can lie down at the back.

and yep, i must say there are indeed more variety of strollers here in uk. i sort of regretted buying mine in singapore. should have just bought it here when i came. (the brands we have, they have too...and then more!) tell you these couple of websites and see if anything special catches your eye...then email me lah!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

You're too kind but I cannot trouble you. After all look at the number of luggage you brought over to the UK? Plus the twin stroller is still rather bulky.

I'm just thinking even the tandem ones will be rather hard to handle on the escalator right? It is much longer than the normal stroller.

Thanks for your offer though.


Anonymous said...

Hi Dylan,

Was browsing around and stumbled upon your blog. Am amazed by the number of readers yew get. =) Not surprisingly, most of them are Mommies, yes?

I wonder if other daddies read your blog. I tried getting my hubby to but he was more interested in looking at Isaac's photos. Heh. Oh well, i tried. =)

Anonymous said...

Oh and by the way, my sister had twins. She hired TWO maids to look after them. And when she's not bonding with hubby, she always made sure she spends every free time she has, bonding with the babies. I remember her telling me that there's always the thought of whether she's able to give equal amounts of attention to the babies.

One thing for sure, time management is crucial for families with twins. She said you gotta juggle couple time, babies time and time to yourself.

Juuuust imparting what she told me.. =)

no man's land said...

hey dylan, no problem man! just let me know if you guys have a change of mind. =) have fun and enjoy the journey now. and do blog more now...when you can. when the twins arrive, i don't think you'll have a lot of time or energy left to blog. *haha*

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Mary M,

Welcome to my humble blog and thank you for leaving your comments.

Yes I do get a few readers and after about 15 months most of the regulars are more like friends now.

The only regrettable thing here is there are no fathers readers or at least I know of none. Don't worry about your husband because you're not the first to fail and you definitely won't be the last. Maybe if I can blog more about sports. Hmmm..... Hahaha

Thanks for sharing your sister's experience with her twins. Hiring a second maid crossed our minds but definitely not something concrete yet. If we can manage then I would much rather prefer that.

I have a feeling that time management is the key once the twins are out. If you read back on some of my older posts you will know that both the Mrs and I do cherish our little "me" time once in a while. Whether this can still be achieved is yet to be seen. Guess we will find out in a few months time huh?!

Meantime do visit again and leave more comments, ideas, suggestions and opinions. And if you have a blog too then I would like to read it as well.

Take care!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Roanne,

You're too kind. We will have a look around especially the 2 websites that you recommend and if the price is truly much cheaper then we will trouble you.

As for blogging, I believe I can still squeeze some time to continue even after the twins are out. Currently I am posting about once a week so I believe I can still manage that.

As long as you regulars are still following and I still get the odd one or two new readers like Mary M then I will definitely continue blogging.

Anonymous said...

Hello Dylan,

My blog is nothing interestingly indepth like yours. haha. But if yew insist, its =P

And yew shdn't write just cos yew have readers (like your regulars or the odd me) Mr Dylan. Yew shd write because yew want to! =)


shysta said...

eh..i just realised that I have a google id lah. hahah.


A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Mary.M or should I call you Shysta?

I do write this blog for myself and the Mrs but sometimes it helps to get a little motivation and that's where you readers come in.

Honestly if it is entirely up to me then knowing me I may not even average one post a week. It's nice to know that there are readers out there who will check in occasionally to see if I have any new posts and this keeps me on my toes.

Thanks for sharing your blog and I will definitely visit it so you keep blogging ya?!


The Bimbo said...

MmMm Issac does seem like an easy baby to take care of...

and why you call him ugly! He's so ADORABLE!!!!!!!!


A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Bobo,

We're hoping that Isaac is considered difficult when compared to the twins but I think it is wishful thinking.

I don't know why but when I first saw him smiling like that I said to him, "You showing me your ugly face ah?" Since then it has stuck so whenever he smiles like that I will refer to it as ugly face.

But in my mind there is no doubt that he is cute though! Hahaha

Anonymous said...

Hi Dylan,

I hvn't been blog hopping for a while, but i din expect to read 3 posts fm u (& 54 comments for tis posts alone), & such GOOD news!!! I'm sooooo happy for you & ur Mrs - achieve target of 3 kids with juz 2 pregnancies! Best still, achieved b4 both of u hit mid-30s. =) Congratulations!!!

Hmmmm... isit bcos of the double joy, that's y ur Mrs hv to go thru double the suffering in the 1st trimester? =P Anw, hope she's ok now, & is enjoying the pregnancy already. =) Take Care!

A Husband's Voice said...

Hi Nana,

I understand you have been very busy yourself hence no time to follow blogs.

Actually you should minus half because it is not really 54 comments because half of them are me replying so it is actually only 27.

Thanks for sharing our joy and it is indeed a pleasant surprise to hit our target so soon!

Yes. A large part is due to the twins and that was why she "suffered" so much during the 1st trimester. She is much better now and definitely enjoying her pregnancy.