Crazy?

The Mrs just had her detailed scanning done at TMC before the weekend. I had to advise Dr Chang that we do not want to know the gender since he is not our Gynae. Just like Dr N, he was indifferent towards it which further enforce this is not such an uncommon request after all. And most people around us are behaving like we are weird / crazy for not wanting to know.

I know for a fact that I am driving many of people around us crazy by opting not to know. My MIL for one, volunteered to go with the Mrs for her next routine check up so that they can find out from the Dr N while I’m not around. According to her, I can remain in the dark while she and the Mrs find out. Luckily the Mrs was supportive of my “crazy” idea so she will not go along with her mother’s plan otherwise I will really go crazy because everyone else will know but me. Now that is not nice!

Besides my MIL, Baby’s God Ma is also very anxious to learn of the gender so she can start buying things for Baby. Knowing her, this is actually better because otherwise she would have loaded us with tonnes of gifts and clothing for Baby by now. She is very generous to people around her.

One day during lunch with my colleagues, they asked me if I am not curious at all. Are you kidding me?!?! I believe the Mrs and I are probably the most curious amongst the lots!!! It took a lot out of me at Dr Chang’s office to stick to the plan of not knowing. I was seriously on the verge of caving in. I know the Mrs was in the same predicament too and I swear to God when I looked into her eyes they were telling me: “How? You really don’t want to know? Maybe we should. I’ll leave it to you lah! Just know that should you change your mind I will support you wholeheartedly and will not laugh at your weak will! I promise!”

I was so close to telling Dr Chang “Okay lah, what the heck! Show me the private!”

Sitting here typing this, I am thinking why put us through such an ordeal. Maybe this idea is a little crazy after all. Is there anyone out there as crazy as us who have been through this already? Maybe you are crazier by not having a Gynae at all! If that’s the case then you the MAN (or woman)!

Anyway my will power remained steadfast and we proceed to scan everywhere but there. So in case you are thinking of going through the same thing, yes it can be avoided!

Funny thing is most people that we spoke to have the same feeling that Baby will be a boy. I even dreamed about Baby being a boy but the Mrs on the other hand feels that Baby will be a girl. I am reading this book written by a father (will touch on it later) and in it he mentioned that if you have narrowed down to a name for one gender but are still struggling with about 10 – 20 names for the other gender then chances are it will be the one with no names yet. I actually believe him cause God as I believe has a wicked sense of humour.

If this is true then Baby will be a boy because we have already confirmed a girl’s name but are struggling with the boy’s name. We have always liked Kate so girl’s name was easy but we have so far narrowed down to 3 names if Baby is a boy. They are Kai, credit to you Cynthia (comments from Gender), Rafe and Kale. The Mrs prefers Kai while the other 2 are my nominations and since they are a little unique so I have to go on the record and clarify that they are both actual names. Not something that I dreamed up. Base on current votes from friends, Kai is leading so I am appealing to you to vote for my nominations. If I end up the eventual winner than I promise you lift upgrading! Hey, no harm borrowing a proven election model and strategy right?

What I learned from this whole experience visiting Dr Chang was we will always be tempted to give in whenever we’re at the Gynaes’ office but once you stepped out, you will feel the spell broken. If you are afraid you cannot fight the spell then my advice is DO NOT go in. You can wait outside.

Personally, I am just glad that we do not have too many visits left to see Dr N. So maybe, just maybe my will power will hold out.